情系我心 The Truth About Jane (2000)

这个题材的电影，我可能看的并不多。我只是一个比大多数人爱看电影的人，没有一定要看的情感需求。看这部电影之前，也是当做爱情电影下载来的，不曾想能够让我如此感动。
在我看过的这类题材电影中，这真是少见的温馨。不是一味地渗析爱情，不是反复的宣泄歧视带来的痛苦，而是在我面前呈现了一个普通的少女，和她普通的家庭。结局令人欣喜，愿天下相同处境的人都能得到理解，而非偏执的爱。
我二十五年的人生，只接触过两次少数群体，都交往不深。所以实在不敢说明白他们的处境，理解他们的心情。我能想象的孤...

Can't imagine what I would do and feel if I am lasbine. Or what if my child is. It's right, sometimes, it's not you don't love your lasbine daughter or gay son, it's just because you are concerning that your child would live a harder life than what you have to. For gay, this world is really not a nice place, if coming into, just trying to make his/her life easier. Love differently, they still are the same person.

well,I guess this is really hard for gay people to tell the truth to those they love the best.We just don't want to hurt them.When they seem to get hurt because of what we do or who we are,we escape,we run away from the truth and the feeling we keep so deeply in our heart.
Once I talked to my dad about gay issue and he thought that they do nothing but blowjob and anal sex.what could I say to him then?He understands nothing about being gay and this is probably the last thing in the whole world he wants to know of.
We just can't be understood.
It's the saddest thing in the world.

it's more a story about PFLAG than a lesbian puppy love story.

i really like Mrs. Wascott ,and Jane's mother is played by "Samatha" as in Sex and the City ?
BTW, Taylor is quite my type...


some fleeting pieces of my mind:

1)usually, u won't and can't die after ur bubbly first love has been dashed.but, u are changed, forever.
there is no way back.u r a different person ---which, is not necessarily a bad thing.

2)coming to terms with urself & what is true is the first step 4 everyone who loves differently.
it's damn hard , and yes, it takes time -- maybe a lot ,if u shall take one step forward then one back..
that's totally normal.still, u've got to do it.what matters is u must force ur true self into a corner,stare it down and really see ur own true color.then, no matter what ,try,try as if ur very life is hanging uopn it, to Accept ,instead of frantically painting it "normal".

3)…

16岁，按照东方或西方的法律，已属成年人的范畴，那意味者他或者她的生理和心理可能已经达到比较成熟的阶段，在这里我用“可能”这个词，是因为他或她的父母也许会觉得这还是个太年轻的年纪，年青到还没经历过花花世界的诱惑与挫折，而一个人的成熟往往是要付出代价的，这也是为什么父母们并不十分肯定他们已经成熟。
《情系我心》讲述的是一个16岁的女孩Jane的情感自我认知过程，在学校她遇到了改变她一生的女孩Talyor。说改变她一生，或许不太准确，因为Talyor的出现只是让她得以认知自我的一个诱因而已，Jane爱上了Talyor，两人亲吻的一幕被处于青少年叛逆期的弟弟窥视到，并恶作剧般的宣扬出去，于是，父母的疑问接踵而来。正如其他父母一样，他们把这一“荒唐”的行为归结于孩子的好奇。在经历了迷惑、彷徨、恐惧、担忧、自我否定等一系列心理过程后，她向父母出柜了，换来的是父母的愤怒和失望。出于母爱的天性，她的妈妈开始“劝说”Jane，希望以此来纠正她的“错误行为”。当然，最初的控制措施较为强烈，24小时的监护，并且禁止Jane出门。但这些都在青春期…